These Behaviours and Revelations Will Destroy Your Career



58 flickr



What do you do when you need help on the job?

You ask for help. It can be your manager or workmates that give you a helping hand.

But you need to be on good terms with everyone to ask and readily receive help and advice.


Relationship building is an essential skill in any career. As you gain more experience and years under your belt, interpersonal skills are seen as a major component in climbing up the ranks.

Millennials that are trying to fast track the corporate ladder may find that they aren’t gaining the respect of their peers and superiors. And you sure can’t include people who don’t respect you in your network.

Yes, we are the media savvy generation, ideally placed in the increasing reliance on digital marketing. And with all those degrees and certificates, we are the overqualified generation to date. So how can they not love us and want to push us ahead?


If it isn’t them, is it us?

Put the onus on yourself. Regardless of how smart and insightful you are, you are the underdog, the outsider still.

Millennials aren’t that different to all the generations that came before. We want to strive ahead and we think we know it all. That’s the same for all new generations: the same person in new clothes.

Our behaviours can come across as glib or uncaring, regardless of our intentions. And the things we often reveal to colleagues can fracture relationships-worst case go into the ears of our managers.

You don’t have to ‘change’ into a complete new person. Below are tips to nuance your behaviours, if you find you aren’t ‘fitting in’ as you expected and things not to reveal at the workplace.


It was all ME

It might be true, at least in your mind. But showing off is something that comes across as poor taste in the eyes of your employers.

Purposely showcasing the amount of coffee and energy drinks you drank to stay up all night isn’t that much of an impressive feat.


Your manager: Though you might think they are old and don’t do much, they aren’t at their position by accident. Your manager is someone that has time management perfected. They juggle their career, family, friends and leisure activities and manage to come out on top.

Bad Example: “Dude, I stayed up all night perfecting that presentation.” Yes, it’s an impressive feat of working yourself into the ground. You are young and have the energy to do those all-nighters.

Your comparison: Your colleagues that do the same in less time. Similar to your managers, they achieve amazing work life balance. They manage to churn out the same quality of work, if not better. And they have a ‘life’. Leisure activities, travel, their well-rounded lifestyle is seen as healthy and a benefit to employers: experiences across a broad range of activities could be brought to the table at work, and are thus valued.

You: brag less, or don’t be seen preening your feathers about work that took you the whole night to prepare. I can assure you, some of your colleagues do the same in half the time. And you don’t know it, because they don’t brag. So you’re actually pointing to your inefficient time management and comparing yourself to others that do better to your managers that see the whole picture.


Achievement Hoarders

Pushing away others to grab the limelight is churlish. I’m not saying millennials as a whole are poor in taste when it comes to sharing achievement and success. But the research is telling. After 2 years, most millennials think they can take on the role of senior manager.

But give acknowledgement where it’s due. Success is much the same as tapping the next athlete on a swim team: the last swimmer does get the limelight.

And don’t expect managers and senior level staff are fooled. They have been through what you have. They know the hard work that is needed by all members of a team, for success to be met.

When you hoard achievement: Managers know who helped you fix your mistakes. You are shooting yourself in the foot when you hoard achievement.

Brilliant leaders praise those working behind the scenes, knowing that everyone has important roles in any successful project. They pass on the baton of leadership, to help elevate their organisation’s future success.


Gossiping About Colleagues

‘That guy is dragging us down’

Similar to the above behaviour of bragging and grabbing attention, gossiping about the incompetence of others is just as damaging.

Truth: Every workplace has one of ‘them’. They are incompetent, and people are always scurrying to fix their mistakes. You may even wonder how they haven’t gotten fired yet.

When you moan and groan about them you are:

  • Broadcasting your insecurities. You are trying to compare yourself to them, saying ‘Aren’t I so much better?’
  • Your cold personality. People judge by what you say, and belittling others speaks volumes about your personality. When you gossip about others, your colleagues will think ‘Does this person talk about me behind others too?’

If you don’t have what it takes to help that incompetent person, don’t make a fuss. Firing and helping them are probably out of your reach as a millennial just starting out your career. So don’t fuss about others, when in reality you aren’t all that perfect yourself.


Jokes that Sting

You might make crude or offensive jokes about that ‘incompetent’ person at your workplace. Or you may cast offensive jokes to people you think you are ‘friends’ with at your place of work.

In truth, you don’t know much about the people you work with. In all likelihood, you didn’t go to the same high school. Even if you went to the same University, you probably didn’t hang out much to get to know each other.

The reality: People are different, and have values and beliefs you may know nothing about. They will laugh at particular things, and be offended and hurt by others. Workmates are mates you have at ‘work’. A lot of us, including your workmates separate work and their personal lives.

Jokes that are offensive:

  • Create enemies. Relationship building this is not. They may laugh and say ‘that was a good one!’ But behind your backs, and in their minds you are someone that is hurtful. You just lost a relationship that could have helped your career.
  • Points to your lack of interpersonal skills. Managers and senior staff are on the lookout for relationship builders, as interpersonal skills are traits for people in management positions. You will kill your chances of promotion, or slow it down considerably.


Key tip: If you ‘think’ it may hurt or offend, simply don’t say anything. You don’t know what life path your colleague trekked, so you don’t know for sure what will make them laugh or cry.

Hurtful jokes are crude and not that funny. It may sound a lot like office politics, but this will affect your career aspirations.

Read on to learn more about what not to do at workplaces for your career

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>